You Are Already Worthy: How to Stop Waiting to Feel Deserving of Success, Love, and Abundance ✨
The Myth of Having to “Earn” Worthiness
Do you ever feel like no matter what you do or achieve, it’s never quite enough? That’s something I’ve been struggling with for a while, but I could never fully understand why. I didn’t necessarily think of it as a worthiness issue.
In my mind, I set out to do what I planned, did it, and that was that. On to the next thing. No big deal. I never considered that my lack of excitement or celebration might actually be a subconscious belief that I didn’t feel worthy of it.
🚨 NEWS-FUH-LASH 🚨: You don’t have to earn worthiness—you are already worthy. Just by existing.
If you’re anything like me, this statement might feel uncomfortable or even wrong at first. I remember thinking:
❌ “You have to do something to deserve something.”
❌ “This sounds entitled—just because I exist, I’m worthy?”
That discomfort? That was my body rejecting this new idea—because for so long, I was conditioned to believe the opposite. But here’s the thing: That discomfort doesn’t mean it’s not true. It just means it’s time to challenge the belief.
Why We Feel Like We Have to Earn Success and Love
Let’s talk about society’s conditioning—how we were taught from childhood that struggle = deserving and that hard work, suffering, and external validation define our value.
For a long time, I didn’t think I struggled with external validation. But when I really sat with it, my body told a different story. My mind understood my successes, but my body rejected them as “not a big deal.”
I realized I had unknowingly absorbed external influences that made me feel like my worthiness was conditional. I had accomplished so much, yet I downplayed all of it—because I didn’t truly believe those achievements earned me anything.
🚫 Reality Check: Worthiness isn’t something you earn. It’s something you accept.
The Truth: Worthiness is Inherent
Let’s put this into perspective. Think of a newborn baby. 👶🏽 Babies are born deserving of love, care, and nurture—without having accomplished anything. They don’t have to earn love; it’s just given.
Now, imagine yourself as that newborn. Do you agree that you were worthy back then? Of course. And that worth never went away.
Still skeptical? Let’s try another perspective:
💡 Have you ever been kind to someone without expecting anything in return?
Of course you have. They didn’t have to “earn” that kindness—you just gave it. Because worth is not transactional.
💡 Have you ever seen someone work hard and still not get what they “deserved”?
Exactly. So if effort alone doesn’t guarantee results, then maybe worthiness isn’t about effort at all.
Signs You Are Subconsciously Blocking Your Worthiness
If your mind knows you’re worthy, but your body doesn’t feel it, you might be unknowingly blocking your sense of worthiness.
Here are 4 signs you might be doing this:
1️⃣ Struggling to Accept Compliments or Help
Oh, this one hit me hard. Compliments? I can kind of handle. But help? Absolutely not. I’m a single mom—I handle everything. I don’t need help.
But here’s what I really meant:
👉🏽 “I don’t deserve help.”
👉🏽 “If I didn’t do something to earn it, why would someone help me?”
🚨 TRUTH BOMB: People can help you simply because they care. You deserve help. You deserve support. You deserve ease.
2️⃣ Always Feeling Like You Need to Prove Yourself
I constantly feel like I need to prove things—to myself, to others. But why?
The truth? I don’t have to. I am already worthy. Period.
3️⃣ Downplaying Accomplishments
I used to think: It’s not that big of a deal. Other people have done this too.
But here’s the truth:
✨ The things you accomplish ARE a big deal.
✨ YOU are a big deal.
And you are worthy and deserving of the good feelings that come with recognizing your success.
4️⃣ Feeling Uncomfortable When Things Come Easily
Ever feel like something came too easy—so it must not be that important?
I often don’t put my full effort into things, so when I succeed anyway, I think:
🤷🏽♀️ “Well, if I actually tried harder, it would’ve been better.”
But here’s a wild thought: What if that ease is actually us being in alignment?
✨ What if success isn’t supposed to be hard?
✨ What if we’re allowed to receive good things without struggle?
How to Shift Into a Worthy, Deserving Mindset
Here’s where the real work begins. This takes patience. Your subconscious has spent years believing you aren’t inherently worthy—so shifting that belief won’t happen overnight.
🔹 1. Challenge the Belief
Ask yourself: “Why do I believe I have to earn my worth?”
When I did this exercise, I listed out all the reasons why I thought I needed to "earn" worthiness. Then I asked myself:
👉🏽 What if I am already worthy?
👉🏽 What if being worthy has nothing to do with what I do?
This shift changes everything.
🔹 2. Practice Receiving (Without Guilt)
Accept compliments. Accept help. Accept kindness.
💡 Try this: Next time someone gives you a compliment, instead of brushing it off, just say “Thank you.” Then sit with the feeling.
(And yes, it might feel cringe at first—but try it anyway.)
🔹 3. Reframe Your Inner Dialogue
❌ “I’ll be worthy when…”
✅ “I am worthy now.”
Every time you catch yourself doubting your worth, correct the thought.
🔹 4. Embody Your Worthiness
Ask yourself:
💭 What does the version of me who fully believes in my worthiness look like?
💭 How do they walk? Talk? Dress? Show up in the world?
Then start showing up as them.
🔹 5. Celebrate Yourself (Without a Reward)
Not with gifts. Not with food. Just acknowledgment.
💡 Try this: After any small win, pause. Breathe. Say: “I did that. And I am proud of myself.”
You Are Worthy Now.
❌ Worthiness isn’t something you achieve.
✅ It’s something you accept.
✨ You are human.
✨ You are here for a reason.
✨ You are worthy. Period.
Now go do something today that reflects this belief. Even if it’s just standing a little straighter or accepting a compliment with a simple:
💖 "Thank you."
